Getting Enraged Does Not Make You a Good Leader
In some movies, you might see bosses getting angry at their employees in front of everyone else. They are viewed as scary, but effective bosses. They throw paper to their employees if they feel dissatisfied. They scream at the top of their lungs if they are unhappy about what their employees did. They storm out of meetings. If they move up the corporate ladder, they become more egoistic and they seem to always be enraged.
Although it happens in movies, it could also happen in real life. It does not mean though that you are an effective boss if you are always enraged. In fact, you are the exact opposite. You always scream and get angry because no one respects you. It feels alone in that environment, and being enraged is you defense mechanism. You think that you are creating an environment of fear that pushes your employees to do their best. It might seem this way at first, but they will reach a point when they will not care about you anymore.
Manage your anger
You might be angry at your employees for a poor performance, but there are other reasons why you feel that way. It is crucial for you to learn how to manage your anger. If you have issues at home, you need to leave it there before you go to the office. You can also start mindfulness meditation to calm yourself and feel optimistic for the rest of the day.
Speak to employees in private
If you are angry at someone, there is no need to scream in front of everyone else. It could be psychologically damaging to the employee. It lowers their self-esteem and would even force them to resign. Worse, they feel useless that they would decide to end their lives. Talking to them in private allows a more comfortable environment where conversation can be made while maintaining a certain degree of respect.
Go out with your employees
The reason why it is easy for you to be angry at the people you work with is because you see them as mere employees. You do not see them beyond what they do for the company. If you start going out with them, you will start looking at them as humans. You can attend parties when invited. You can treat them to dinner to celebrate a milestone. You will then realize that these people have lives outside work. You will also be more understanding of them.
There are other ways to deal with problems
You can talk to employees who are underperforming and ask them what is going on. If there are employees who need mentoring, you can offer your time and attention. You might also ask help from someone else in the team to mentor the said employee.
Showing how angry you are when everyone is listening will only make you a weak leader. At some point, these employees will ignore your tantrums and focus their attention on other things.
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